When Love Turns To War

Arguing has never solved anything.  It really only makes things worse.  My husband and I are both passionate communicators, especially when it comes to topics that we feel strongly about.  While we were dating, we discovered that our passionate conversations could quickly become arguments so we learned how to de-escalate disagreements before they turned explosive.  We both committed to always doing what’s best and healthy for our relationship so instead of arguing, we choose to have a conversation where we tune in and listen  to get an understanding of what we need from each other. I like to think of arguments as an indicator that something is off balance in the relationship. Perhaps a need is not being met or there’s some uncovered or unresolved hurt.  When looking at it this way, it’s easier to focus on what’s right instead of who’s right.  Disagreements in a relationship are kind of like caring for a baby.  When a baby cries, we don’t argue with the baby about why they’re crying do we? Of course not, what we do is shift our focus on the baby to figure out what they need to feel better. What if you had this same perspective towards disagreements in your relationship?.